I too am sorry for your loss.Thank you. The point wasn't to "guilt" you into acquiescence, however. It was over 10 years ago and while I still miss her daily, it's no longer an open wound.
I thanked God for allowing her to avoid the horrible things that her mind and body were going through or that she was about to face.
OTOH, she was my sister and she was very much like a second mother to me. She was also a single parent and an awesome mother to her actual son.
Her timely passing was a gift from God. Her death was absolutely tragic.
I don't know how else to put it but I'm certain that I'm not the first human to face that dichotomy.
You made part of my point very well. Just because a passing may be the better of two evils between death and suffering does not mean it is not tragic regardless. The fact that I believe in Jesus Christ and that I will finally see Him face to face in Heaven and on the new earth where there will be no more suffering or loss does not mean my death would not have other ramifications which would be tragic. I would be in a better place, but my wife would be left without a provider, my kids without a father...and so on. Death can be both a blessing to the one suffering and tragic to them and their loved ones.