Are you serious with this? Most kids given up for adoption end up wards of the state til they are 18.
By age 17, over half of youth in foster care have experienced an arrest, conviction, or overnight stay in a correctional facility, and a whopping 90 percent have some interaction with the criminal justice system at some point in their lives.
50 percent of the homeless have been in the system
60 percent of those being sex trafficked have been in the system.
30 percent were removed from parents home for substance abuse by parents, and 34 percent will go on to use illicit substances themselves as compared to 22 percent that live in their biological homes.
This the hill you want to die on?
Where are you getting that from? You think most kids where the mom chooses to give them up upon birth arent adopted?
I know the odds change some depending on race and other things but most are getting adopted.
My guess would be the child is taken in by other family members most times when the family finds out the mother is going to give the child up though.