On Further Review/Re: Danny is getting Drunk Tonight
On 2/6 10:31 PM, 'Dannygator1989' revealed (#23995):
I have been vomiting every morning and coughing up blood for 3 months and apparently those are some signs of lung cancer [....] But, just like how men don't ask for directions, I refuse to go to the doctor. Screw it.
Yikes! I'm sympathetic to your refusal. But even tho' all of it's none of my d**n business, I'm recommending that you consider a different perspective[*], which might not have occurred to you under the extra stress caused by your roommate & fiancee's behavior.
Seeing as how Auburn is a state school, doesn't the campus have
subsidized medical services? At least enough to get you a
diagnosis? Yes, that's even with your mind already made up that you'll decline whatever treatment is insisted upon.
Whether it confirms what you suspect or not, a
physician-signed diagnosis
now for the record, while you have the symptoms, might turn out to be
very valuable to you, soooner
and later, for however you decide to proceed. Especially if all or most of your reliable income right now comes from a grad-student assistantship, a conversation ASAP with your thesis advisor or other friendly faculty member, about your options might be
really prudent. Like maybe to arrange 'medical leave'
and to stay on the dept. payroll until summer? A copy of your diagnosis for your dept.'s files might be enough cover for your dept. chairperson's posterior for her|him to agree to keep your checks coming, whereas if you just disappear, um, maybe not.
I'm not even sure I'm in college anymore. [....]
So get the d**n diagnosis, before someone who can deny you whatever medical services are provided for college students, makes a decision that you ain't, anymore. I'm assuming that admitting to your medically relevant vices would be less problematic in a college-campus environment than in, e.g., beautiful downtown Opelika or Columbus-on-Chattahoochee.
If your diagnosis turns out to be far less morbid than you suspect, a physician-signed diagnosis might serve as compelling evidence in your favor, explaining any personal lapses that your dept. has already noticed (e.g.: no-shows for teaching and office hours?), while as much as possible
not being an exercise in self-incrimination. In the university registrar's office, it might serve as crucial evidence for recording this term as a 'medical withdrawal' (if you can't arrange a better deal, because it risks cancelling any grad assistantship this school-year), instead of as an unexplained drop-out, and later getting you back into college if that's how you eventually decide to proceed; and if so, for getting back any grad-student assistantship you were being paid. I assume that if your dept. hasn't already begun to make decisions on renewed and new grad assistantships for the next school year, it'll start within a few weeks. I also assume that it'll be done by a faculty committee, so making sure that there's a friendly face on that committee, who's been told
directly by you about your situation, might be
really important.
If it turns out that the prognosis is morbid, at least it'd be liberating to know that no priorities need to be placed higher than "eat, drink, be merry".
Note *: Which I expanded in-place ca. noon, because fewer than a handful of people have viewed this topic since National LoI-Signing Day. (I am not professionally qualified to offer advice on medicine or law anywhere, nor on university administration & procedures in Alabama).
This post was edited on 2/7 12:29 PM by CompuGator
This post was edited on 2/7 12:50 PM by CompuGator
